Relationship Issues and Empowerment

May 9, 2022

Relationship issues? Are you constantly asking yourself:

  • How can I make this relationship worthwhile? 
  • What else can I do to be heard? 
  • Are you thinking about making some changes in your life and the fear and anxiety seem overwhelming at times?

The frustration, loneliness, anger, and sadness of these feelings make it seem like you have no control over your life. It can be like swimming through mud!

Trying to gather the self-assuredness and the self-esteem to make the right/best choice for all concerned.

Have you forgotten – 

  • What you really want? 
  • What your deepest desires are? 
  • What your deepest needs are that aren’t being met?
  • What it’s like to feel fulfilled in life? 

Imagine who you want to be in a year.

Following is a poem that gives ideas about living a full life…

Imagine a Woman, by Patricia Lynn Reilly –

Imagine a woman who believes it is right and good she is a woman.

A woman who honors her experience and tells her stories.

Who refuses to carry the sins of others within her body and life.

Imagine a woman who trusts and respects herself.

A woman who listens to her needs and desires.

Who meets them with tenderness and grace.

Imagine a woman who acknowledges the past’s influence on the present.

A woman who has walked through her past. 

Who has healed into the present.

Imagine a woman who authors her own life.

A woman who exerts, initiates, and moves on her own behalf.

Who refuses to surrender except to her truest self and wisest voice.

Imagine a woman who names her own gods.

A woman who imagines the divine in her image and likeness.

Who designs a personal spirituality to inform her daily life.

Imagine a woman in love with her own body.

A woman who believes her body is enough, just as it is.

Who celebrates its rhythm and cycles as an exquisite resource.

Imagine a woman who honors the body of the Goddess in her changing body.

A woman who celebrates the accumulation of her years and her wisdom.

Who refuses to use her life-energy disguising the changes in her body and life.

Imagine a woman who values the women in her life.

A woman who sits in circles of women.

Who is reminded of the truth about herself when she forgets. 

Imagine yourself as this woman

Imagine a woman who is interested in her own life.

A woman who embraces her life as teacher, healer, and challenge.

Who is grateful for the ordinary moments of beauty and grace. 

Imagine a woman who participates in her own life.

A woman who meets each challenge with creativity.

Who takes actions on her own behalf with clarity and strength.

Imagine a woman who has crafted a fully-formed solitude.

A woman who is available to herself.

Who chooses friends and lovers with the capacity to respect her solitude. 

Imagine a woman who acknowledges the full range of human emotion. 

A woman who expresses her feelings clearly and directly.

Who allows them to pass through her as naturally as the breath.

Imagine a woman who tells the truth. 

A woman who trusts her experience of the world and expresses it.

Who refuses to defer to the perceptions, thoughts, and responses of others. 

Imagine a woman who follows her creative impulses.

A woman who produces original creations.

Who refuses to color inside someone else’s lines.

Imagine a woman who has relinquished the desire for intellectual approval.

A woman who makes a powerful statement with every action she takes.

Who asserts to herself the right to reorder the world. 

Imagine a woman who has grown in knowledge and love of herself.

A woman who has vowed faithfulness to her own life.

Who remains loyal to herself. Regardless. 

After our time together, client say they learn how to –

  • Build on their strengths, and improve skills, self-confidence, and self-assuredness needed to make that courageous step, whatever it is
  • Move forward into challenges with confidence and courage
  • Overcome fear and trepidation
  • Thrive rather than just survive
  • Create a life they can be proud of

They feel heard and acknowledged, and they face challenges with grace and calm. They get tools to work with, and they make solid, positive difference in their lives. They enjoy a renewed sense of self-confidence. 

Let’s get started today

Are you ready to get some relief from the anxiety and feelings of hopelessness; and start to feel better? 

Therapy can answer your questions, help you see how to grow and move forward, away from the patterns that don’t serve you anymore, and towards the life that you can be proud of.

Start now and get to know what will provide you with a full life, with joy and self-assuredness in yourself. During your free 15-minute phone consultation, we can see if we are a good fit, you can get some information on how I work with people, and we can discuss your next steps.

I would love to talk with you about what you are going through. 

Call us at 888-666-9059 or email us at

Online counseling via a HIPAA-compliant platform is always available. 

To your healing and growth,

Dr. Melissa Valentina, Ph.D., LMFT, CHT

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