You’ve spent a lifetime being strong for everyone else. Now your relationship needs something different from you.
You’re capable, experienced, and used to handling challenges on your own. But relationships run on emotional connection, not grit, logic, or fixing. Therapy gives you a steady, judgment-free place to understand what you’re feeling, communicate more clearly, and build a relationship that supports you too.
You might be here because
- You want closeness, but don’t always know how to express what you feel.
- You shut down or pull back during conflict because you don’t want to make things worse.
- Your partner wants more emotional connection, and you’re unsure how to give it.
- Stress, aging, or life transitions are affecting how you show up in your relationship.
- You feel misunderstood, even though you’re trying harder than people realize.
- You’ve never been taught how to talk about feelings or where to even begin.
You want clarity, connection, and steady ground in your relationship
- You want fewer arguments and more understanding.
- You want to feel respected, valued, and heard.
- You want your relationship to feel like a place of comfort, not conflict.
What We Work on Together
- Communicate clearly without feeling pushed past your comfort zone
- Stay calm and connected during conflict instead of shutting down
- Understand your partner’s emotional needs without guessing
- Express what you feel in a way that makes sense to you
- Navigate aging, identity shifts, stress, or relationship changes
- Strengthen intimacy, trust, and connection
My Approach to Working with Older Men.
What I Don’t Do:
What I Do Instead:
What to Expect in Therapy
Many men begin feeling more grounded and understood within the first several weeks.
Step 1: Consultation
We clarify what’s happening in your relationship and what you want to improve.
Step 2: Personal Roadmap
We outline clear, achievable goals based on your personality, pace, and communication style.
Step 3: Growth and Stability
You practice new tools, build confidence, and show up in your relationship with more clarity and connection.
"Dr. Valentina has been an excellent source of support and advice. She really grasped my issues and my situation right off the bat, as if I was talking to an old friend. Her advice has already had a significant impact and I feel better equipped with the tools I need to get me through. She is great at making me feel at ease, I feel as if I am in very capable hands."
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Frequently Asked Questions
What if I’m not comfortable talking about feelings?
That’s completely okay. We’ll move at a pace that feels natural, and we’ll find language that works for you.
Is it normal to feel lost at this stage of life?
Yes. Many men reach a point where old strategies stop working and new support is needed.
What if I’m only here because my partner asked me to come?
That’s incredibly common and it often leads to real progress once you feel comfortable.
